Actress and lifestyle queen Tabitha Brown and husband Chance celebrate 20 years of marriage with an intimate photo shoot captured in PEOPLE.

Instead of a vow renewal the couple opted to get dressed up in their wedding day attire and held a photo shoot in the backyard of their L.A. home.

The key to their long-lasting marriage, Tabitha says, is “communication.”

“Sometimes people hear communication and they think, ‘Oh, that just means talking.’ But sometimes it means not talking. Sometimes it’s knowing when not to bother your spouse, when to allow them their space, when to just listen, when to just be present for them,” she says. “Just learning how they need you to show up and communicate with them and how they need you to love them, not how you want to be loved.”

For Chance, it’s being “selfish with your partner” and treating it marriage like a “Fortune 500.”

“Be mindful that we could be here today and go on tomorrow and love them like that, love your partner like that and protect them that,” he says. “Also, treat it like a Fortune 500 company and not necessarily a mom and pop. Now, I don’t have anything against mom and pop spots, and I used to use the reference of a mom and pop and somebody might switch this around… but where there’s a mom and pop, I feel like there’s limitations. And I use the reference of a Fortune 500 to say, don’t put any limitations on how far you can go inside of your marriage.”

He adds, “As long as you treat it like that and you value it as the most valuable asset, it will create generational wealth.”